Love, Not Trends

Love

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Love isn’t rooted in emotional safety, mutual respect, or shared values anymore. It’s rooted in alignment with a curated aesthetic

Rooted Love Playlist
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We live in a world of curation.
We curate our feeds, our outfits, our vibe.
And slowly without even realizing we start curating people, too.
Has aesthetics become the new baseline for love?

Love isn’t rooted in emotional safety, mutual respect, or shared values anymore. It’s rooted in alignment with a curated aesthetic. In how you match their fly. In the music posted on their story. In whether your “soft launch” would get reposted.
But there’s supposed to be so much more.
…At least, that’s what I thought.

People are dating their Pinterest boards.
They fall for someone’s consumption: the art they like, the clothes they wear, the way they move through curated spaces.
Their vibe becomes your love language.
But when the facade starts to fade, you realize
you never asked real questions.
Aesthetics don’t answer:

– Do they respect your boundaries?
– Are they emotionally available?
– Do they value growth, healing, partnership, or just attention?

Social media has conditioned us to prioritize visuals over substance.
And before we know it, we start filtering reality without even trying.
You tell yourself, “We just have to get through the rough patch,”
when really, you’ve been ignoring dealbreakers since the first date.
You realize your goals don’t align.
Your values are on opposite ends of the spectrum.
But the illusion?
It’s hard to let go of.

We romanticize the potential, not the person.
Because breaking up would ruin the look.
And deep down, we fear losing the image even if the reality is silently draining us.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting a beautiful love.
But when we chase aesthetics instead of alignment, we chase illusions.
And illusions?
They don’t grow you.
They don’t hold you accountable.
They don’t know how to stay when things get real.
They just look good on camera.

So here’s the real check-in. The metrics. The KPIs.

If you stripped away the outfits, the playlists, the posts
would you still be into them?
Would they still inspire you, challenge you, hear you?

Real love isn’t always photogenic. 

It shows up when the vibe is off and the filters are gone
But it’s consistent.
It’s honest.
Let’s stop dating for aesthetics.
Let’s start dating for alignment and not trends.